Now many women suffer from sterility. And, alas, their number grows every year. And medicine, despite all progress, is often powerless. But even when nothing seems to help you, do not lose hope!
If you are sterile, your desire to have children turns to be impracticable. But the matter is that diagnosis “sterility”, despite a definitive sentence of medicine, is surmountable! If you do not lose hope. And there are lots of examples.
We had a meeting of schoolmates. We did not see with each other for 20 years. Our class was very amicable. We thought out all concerts for holidays ourselves, rehearsed in assembly hall till the night. Walked in the evenings without a break.
In general, we were on really friendly terms at school. We appreciated each other. And then, as it often happens, everyone walked his own way. We were striving for the future and did not remember about past, grieved and hoped in sould: “Next year I will necessarily phone - we will meet”. But nobody phoned or met.
And here we sit in a cafe at a long table. We look at each other. We are surprised, rejoice, we get used. Say toasts by turns. Everyone rises, speaks about himself shortly, wishes all something wonderful. We clink glasses, drink, eat. Then following speaks. Everything, in general, is similar enough. Study, work. Apartment, car, summer residence. Wedding. A child, basically, one, only at several – two. Someone divorced and married again, and someone remained aingle. All is noisy, cheerful, very friendly. As before.
Now it’s Anne’s turn to talk. And she was always considered a homebody. She could cook well since school age, invited us to her place for all holidays. And in a composition “Whom you wish to be?” She wrote “I wish to be a mum”. And here there is Anne telling about herself: study, work, married for 15 years, a country house, huge site, garden. Invites us to her place. Smiles, tells a toast: “It is so great we’ve met now!” We clink glasses, drink, eat further. And start whispering to each other: “Does she have children?.”
And I learn terrible news. The girl who wrote “I wish to be mum” in a composition “Whom you wish to be?” – is sterile. A monstrously unfair sentence of destiny. But, despite it, Anne did not surrender. She passed improbable quantity of analyses, all advanced researches. I even did not know about such things: hormonal and ultrasonic monitoring, basal temperature supervision, colposcopy, hysteroscopy etc. Besides, their couple was checked on compatibility - they established that husband was healthy, and there was no incompatibility. Anne passed any courses of treatment annually, went for consultation to most known doctors. But …
Medicine still could not establish the reason of her barreness, and therefore, possibly, could not help. It was some unique case when everything is in norm, but fertilisation does not occur – either in a natural way, or in a test tube. Anne has been going to her dream for all these 15 years. Indefatigably, violently, with furious belief. And only last year she ceased to be treated. She was told: “37 years - this is already hopeless”.
Our meeting ended closer to one o’clock in the morning. Anne escaped earlier, having told at parting that in 5 years she will necessarily gather us again and wished all of us the best in life. We looked to her following and thought: what endurance! Even eyes do not give out tragedy of her life … But the culmination of this history occurred in two years.
In one of evenings, late enough already, I am called by one of our schoolmates and she starts speaking joyfully greedily … “Are you standing? Sit down! Sit down, I ask you! You do not represent to yourself!!! Anne!!! Has given birth!!! A girl!!! 3,400!!! Caesarean section, but she is 39 years already. You just ponder!!! At 39 years!!! After 15 years of tortures!!!” I settled on a chair. Anne … What happiness!
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It appears, Anne descended to some wise woman, in a blank despair, after 15 years of unsuccessful medical treatment. And that woman told her: “Honey, forget about everything! You are not sterile. Live easy. You will definitely have a child. Everything will be good”. And Anne started living easy, did not recollect past. And infinitely believed that she will become a mother, having solved for herself: “I will not be afraid to gibe birth at any age!” And a year later she became pregnant.
A message about Anne’s motherhood, naturally, flew all of us instantly. We exchanged calls for several days: “Are you standing? Sit down! Ah, you already know … This is a miracle! I still cannot believe!” And in 10 days Anne left maternity home, and I called to congratulate her. I do not even remember words I said. I remember that my confusion prevented me from showing pleasure. And in the end of conversation I heard a silent Sonya’s groaning (Anne gave this name to her daughter). The babe wished to eat and thus declared her rights to mum persistently.
Perhaps, Anne’s history is my strongest shock during last years. I suddenly understood an absolutely improbable and, nevertheless, existing true: a woman’s desire to have a child is mighty. After all, if development of medicine allows working wonders, they are always scientifically explainable. And here we have a real miracle, which is inexplicable from the point of view of science, only human can make it.
A sterile woman, not armed with medical knowledge, but having much bigger - a huge desire to give birth to a child, can become a magician for herself. Therefore I will repeat: never lose hope!
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