The first pregnancy: 5 fears you should forget about

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He is hardly 1 month old and doctors say about him “it”, not “he”, but you already have his first photo. A little dark spot. Well, does he look like you? You can paste it in your album and celebrate the event. Ah, you cannot. And put a chocolate back - a baby will have allergy. Don`t cross your legs, don`t stay in a stuffy room, and in general, what did you eat yesterday?


He is hardly 1 month old and doctors say about him “it”, not “he”, but
you already have his first photo. A little dark spot. Well, does he look like
you?
You can paste it in your album and celebrate the event. Ah, you cannot. And put
a chocolate back - a baby will have allergy. Don`t cross your legs, don`t stay
in a stuffy room, and in general, what did you eat yesterday? Since this moment
a Great Era of Anxiety has started for you.

 
Later you will forget these feelings and determine period of pregnancy
as the most harmonious period in your life. But now, when you need rest more
than ever, you often feel real stresses. Of course, there`s a legion of future
mothers` reasons for anxieties. For example, one “anxious” one asked her doctor
such question: “I smoke marijuana sometimes, can you tell, how it can affect my
baby?” All below-mentioned concerns only diligent moms, who read lots of books
on this subject long ago and oriented their brain work towards the area of care
about future posterity. So, what we are afraid of and how founded our fears
are?
 
1. A baby will be born unhealthy.
Probably, this is the main sword of Damocles, which intends to make your
life a misery during all 9 months. And these are doctors and clever books which
should be blamed. Apparently, statistics, saying that only one woman of 100
pregnant ones after 35 can give birth to a baby with Down`s syndrome, is called
to calm down a future mother. But, as a rule, Doctors of Science forget about
the fact that woman`s reason ignores figures. And they do everything so that
such terms, like “Tay-Sachs disease” or “hydrocephalus” would hang you
on the rear.
 
Only common sense and understanding can struggle with plenty of
information, which overwhelmed you. Don`t become like that English woman from
an anecdote, which refused to give birth to a 4th baby, after she
heard that every fourth new-born in the world is a Chinese.
 
And if your doctor is listening to a heartbeat of your baby during 30
minutes every time, this just means that he does his work professionally.
Although here you should remember about other side too: quite often a “patient”
is cured hard from a non-existing infection with a well-known purpose. So you
have a reason to avoid unknown paid doctors.
 
2. What should you do with
him?
You whole previous life passed under the slogan “I`m so young and
careless”. Probably, you know perfectly how to do lots of useful things, for
example, dancing cha-cha-cha, squandering your husband`s salary for one evening
or making your boss hopping mad. But if you never worked as a midwife in a
hospital, then, most likely, you don`t know about a new-born baby`s nuances of
life. Strangely enough, most of newly-made moms manage not to drown their darlings
in a bath and swaddle him upside down. Probably, maternal instinct is involved
here. Anyway, even if you are sure that you will cope with a baby by yourself,
you still should provide yourself with a home phone number of a known doctor or
experienced girlfriend, better with medical education, beforehand. Warm them
that you can call any time. Their understanding is guaranteed.
 
3. Fear of delivery.
Yes, the nearer a cherished date comes, the more clearly you understand
that you are afraid. Of what? You are even ashamed to admit this - of several
hours, which will give birth to your baby. Relax! This fear is the most inexpedient
one! Firstly, during the process of delivery a level of endorphins - hormones
of joy - is increased in a woman`s blood (the same happens during sexual intimacy).
This way, you just can overlook the thing that seems especially painful for
you, as you will be busy “pushing out” a baby from you. Besides, in complicated
or long delivery doctors allow usage of local anesthesia, practically harmless
for a baby. If you are impressed with your girlfriends` stories about their sufferings,
make allowance for a woman`s habit of exaggeration.
 
Anyway, believe, since the first moment when you see a face of a
creature, which recently was a single whole with you, you will never remember
about troubles, you had to overcome for this.
 
4. Lose previous appeal.
And this is not egoism at all. There`s nothing surprising in the fact
that you want to be a beautiful mother. For some women fear to lose shape - is
the only thing that prevents them from starting a family. And,
unfortunately, after giving birth to a first baby, many women really lose
shape. Treating this like a peculiar retribution for maternity, they calm down,
and grow fat morea



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