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“It is too early for you”. These are the words we say to our children quite often. May be, we are mistaken sometimes in our ideas about what is “early” for them, and what`s, sorry, “late” already?


“It is too early for you”.
These are the words we say to our children quite often. May be, we are mistaken
sometimes in our ideas about what is “early” for them, and what`s, sorry, “late”
already?

An American psychologist, a doctor of medicine, Professor Rudolph Dreikurs writes:

“One of the most harmful mistakes is parents` striving to determine their children`s
age, when it`s time for them, to parents` opinion, to begin helping adults in
their home matters. When a baby girl, beginning to walk, wants to help her parents
to lay the table, they sometimes say to her: “No, it`s too early for you”, and
when she`s 6, they start requiring an ability to do everything from her. By this
time, she already thinks that if adults managed to do without her help before,
then why should she help them now? Parents sometimes miss many opportunities to
allow their children learning independently. If a child is allowed to help adults
since early age, then he does it with pleasure and is very proud of the trust
they show to him”.

Some adults are assured that childhood should pass in idleness: “When he grows,
then he`ll work enough”. However, this is a mistake. Psychologists note that mutual
work is very important for love and mutual understanding in a family. As far as
possible, allow your child doing all household affairs - washing, wringing, sweeping,
washing up, washing car etc.

But you should avoid another extreme too, when you require too much from your
child. For example, some parents think that a child of 2-3 ages should already
maintain cleanness and order in his room. However, one should understand that
it`s just naA?ve to require showing of enthusiasm and responsibility in cleaning
a room from a child of such age.

Love for order, which children may show in early childhood, has its negative
sides also. Children, who love putting things in their places and establishing
order, often are lacking of spontaneity in behavior, ability to play recklessly,
initiative.

Of course, one can teach his child to order (there`re lots of recommendations
on this subject in literature), but the main is a personal example. The basic
mechanism of a child`s social behavior is imitation. Therefore, if your house
is kept in order, then your child will gain appropriate habits naturally sooner
or later.



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